Overcoming Body Image Issues in the Bedroom: Embracing Body Confidence and Sexual Well-being by Dr Martha Tara Lee
Relationship Counsellor & Clinical Sexologist
Overcoming Body Image Issues in the Bedroom: Embracing Body Confidence and Sexual Well-being by Dr Martha Tara Lee
Do you have body image issues? Does your body image issues affect you in the bedroom. Relationship Counsellor & Sex Therapist Dr Martha Tara Lee shares how you can overcome your body image issues and start building body confidence.
Body image concerns can significantly impact an individual's sexual well-being and their ability to fully embrace their sexuality. As a relationship counsellor and clinical sexologist in Singapore, I understand the importance of addressing these issues and providing practical tips for building body confidence.
In this blog, we will explore self-reflection, mirror exercises, affirmations, seeing oneself through the eyes of a partner, self-compassion, doing what you can, and seeking professional support to overcome body image issues in the bedroom.
But before that, let’s look at the definition of body image and body image issues.
Body Image Issues Defined
Body image refers to how an individual sees their body and their feelings with this perception. Positive body image relates to body satisfaction, while negative body image relates to dissatisfaction.
What are some common body image issues? If you have some of the below behaviours, you are probably having some body image issues and would probably benefit from seeking counselling from a Counsellor, Psychologist, or Psychotherapist:
Obsessively thinking about your body and appearance
Putting too much emphasis on your weight, shape or size
Frequently comparing your body and appearance with other people
Changes to your eating and exercise behaviours in an attempt to change your weight or muscularity
Now that we identify that you might be having body image issues, let’s look at what we can to do to overcome them.
1) Self-Reflection: Understanding Your Body Image Concerns
The first step towards overcoming body image issues is self-reflection. Take some time to explore your thoughts, feelings, and beliefs about your body. Ask yourself questions such as:
What specific aspects of my body do I feel insecure about?
Where do these insecurities stem from? Are they influenced by societal standards, past experiences, or personal expectations?
How do these insecurities affect my sexual well-being and overall self-esteem?
By gaining a deeper understanding of your body image concerns, you can begin to address them more effectively.
2) Mirror Exercise
One powerful exercise to promote self-acceptance and compassion is the mirror exercise. Stand in front of a full-length mirror and observe your body without judgment. Instead of focusing on perceived flaws, try to see yourself through a lens of compassion and appreciation.
As you look at yourself, repeat positive affirmations such as:
"I am beautiful just as I am."
"My body is unique and deserving of love."
"I embrace my sexuality with confidence."
This exercise can gradually shift your perspective from self-criticism to self-compassion, helping you develop a healthier relationship with your body. This may not be a once off exercise. For some people, you may need to repeat it a few times or regularly for you to come to a place of total self-acceptance and compassion.
3) Affirmations
Affirmations are powerful tools for building body confidence. Create a list of positive affirmations that resonate with you and repeat them daily.
Some examples include:
"I am deserving of pleasure and intimacy."
"My body is capable of experiencing immense pleasure."
"I am confident in my sexuality and embrace my desires."
4) Seeing Yourself Through the Eyes of a Loved One
Imagine how your partner or good friend sees you and appreciates your body. They are focusing on the whole of you and not the flawed body part(s) that you’re concerned about. Recognize that they love you for who you are, not just for your physical appearance. Engage in open and honest conversations with your partner about their attraction to you, fostering a deeper connection and understanding.
5) Self-Compassion
Practice self-compassion by treating yourself with kindness and understanding. Remember that everyone has insecurities, and you are not alone in your struggles. Be gentle with yourself and embrace self-love as an essential part of your journey towards body confidence. You can use kind words to build a positive relationship with your body: ”I love that my wide hips allowed me to bear two beautiful children,” or “I love that my strong legs allow me to dance with my friends,” or more generally, “I love all that my body does for me.”
6) Do What You Can
Instead of focusing on things you cannot change, like your height, focus on the aspects of your body that you can control and improve upon, such as maintaining a healthy lifestyle through regular exercise and a balanced diet. Taking care of your physical health can positively impact your mental well-being and body image.
7) Seek Professional Support
In addition to a Counsellor, Psychologist, Psychotherapist, or Sex Therapist, consider seeking professional support from various experts such as image consultants, personal trainers, or dietitians who specialize in body positivity and sexual well-being. These professionals can provide personalized guidance and support tailored to your specific needs.
Conclusion
Overcoming body image issues in the bedroom is a journey that requires self-reflection, self-compassion, and practical strategies. By incorporating mirror exercises, affirmations, seeing oneself through the eyes of a partner, self-compassion, doing what you can, and seeking professional support, individuals can build body confidence and embrace their sexuality.
As a relationship counsellor and clinical sexologist in Singapore, I encourage you to embark on this empowering journey towards a more fulfilling and confident sexual life. Remember, you deserve pleasure, intimacy, and body positivity. Book in a session with me now.