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Understanding Anxiety in Children by Age Group



by
Anne Ueberbach
Assistant Director / Counsellor


Understanding Anxiety in Children by Age Group

Anxiety is a natural human emotion that affects individuals of all ages, including children. While anxiety can be a normal response to stress, excessive or persistent anxiety can interfere with a child's daily life, relationships, and overall well-being. As children grow and develop, their anxiety manifestations and triggers change. In this post, we'll explore anxiety in children across different age groups, its signs, symptoms, and strategies for support.

Recognizing Anxiety in Children

Anxiety in children can be difficult to spot, as it often manifests differently than in adults. Children may not have the vocabulary or self-awareness to express their feelings, leading to missed or delayed diagnoses. Recognizing anxiety in children requires attention to subtle signs and behavioral changes. 

  • Lack of clear communication: Children may struggle to articulate their emotions or concerns.

  • Masking symptoms: Anxiety can be hidden behind behavioral issues, such as tantrums or aggression.

  • Developmental stages: Anxiety can be mistaken for normal childhood fears or phase-of-life concerns.

  • Variability in presentation: Anxiety can manifest differently across children, making it hard to identify.

  • Parental or caregiver stress: Adults may be overwhelmed, distracted, or unaware of anxiety signs.

  • Cultural or societal expectations: Anxiety may be stigmatized or minimized in certain cultures.

Causes of Anxiety in Children

While there is no one single cause to anxiety, there are multiple factors that may contribute to a child developing anxiety in childhood. However, they are not to be seen as a predictor of anxiety.

Physical Health

  • Chronic illness or pain

  • Sleep disturbances or fatigue

  • Nutrition and digestive issues

  • Sensory processing difficulties

Genetic Predisposition

  • Family history of anxiety or mental health disorders

Environmental Factors

  • Family dynamics: Conflict, divorce, or parental anxiety

  • Social pressures: Bullying, peer relationships, or social media

  • School stress: Academic expectations, homework, or exams

  • Trauma: Abuse, neglect, or exposure to violence

  • Changes in routine: Moving, changing schools, or losing a loved one

Psychological Factors

  • Perfectionism

  • Low self-esteem

  • Fear of failure or making mistakes

  • Difficulty coping with emotions

 Childhood Anxiety by Age Group

5 Ways Parents and Caregivers Can Support their Child/ren

  1. Model healthy anxiety management: Children learn from observing adults.

  2. Encourage open communication: Create a safe, non-judgmental space for discussion.

  3. Teach relaxation techniques: Introduce skills like deep breathing, progressive muscle relaxation, or mindfulness.

  4. Foster a supportive environment: Promote a growth mindset, encourage effort, and praise progress.

  5. Seek professional help: Consult with a mental health professional (counsellor, psychologist or psychotherapist) if anxiety interferes with your child’s daily life. As a parent, you can also seek professional support from a therapist or parenting coach for yourself to learn how you can best support your child.

Conclusion

Anxiety in children is more common than we think, and it's time to break the silence surrounding this critical issue. By acknowledging anxiety's impact on children's lives and seeking help when needed, we can create a supportive environment that fosters healthy emotional growth. We need prioritize children's mental well-being and seek early intervention, education and support. Let us encourage open conversations, and provide our children with the tools to navigate life's challenges with confidence.


About the author

Anne is a a compassionate and experienced counsellor, who empowers her clients to thrive amidst life's challenges. Her expertise across Singapore and Australia spans mental health, career coaching, and multicultural dynamics, informed by her own expat experience and diverse family background.

Anne creates a warm and non-judgmental space for growth and transformation. Her empathetic approach supports individuals, families, and expats navigating life's challenges and transitions.